The Five Love Languages – Week 1 – Words of Affirmation (Saying Kind Things)

This week at Bridge Kids, we began with a brief overview of each Love Language (Words of Affirmation, Gifts, Acts of Service, Time Spent With and Physical Touch). Our main focus this week was Words of Affirmation. We discussed showing love to others by saying kind things (verbal, notes, cards, etc) that are both true and authentic.

We started out talking about unconditional love and God’s unconditional love for us and how we don’t have to do anything to win God’s love for us – we just have it….always.

We talked about our emotional fuel tanks and set up Fuel Stations labeled with each Love Language. Each kid had a sheet of stickers with the first letter of their name on them. We asked specific questions such as, “Which do you like best: When someone gives you hugs or when someone gives you a present?” or “Which do you like better: When someone says something nice to you or when someone reads you a book?” Which ever “fuel” they answered, they placed a sticker at that particular fueling station. This helped us get a high-level overview of what each kids’ love language might be. Words of Affirmation, or Saying Nice Things to people, without expecting something in return, and saying something genuine is one way we can express our love for one another. We should never use words of affirmation to manipulate others into doing something for us.
Each Bridge Kid created a card with words of affirmation written on the inside, or a picture showing how/who they love. We challenged them to give the card to someone that they love this week, whether it’s a parent, sibling, grandparent, or friend. We also challenged them to use words of affirmation to three different people this week in a genuine way to see how it makes other people feel and to see how it makes them feel, as well.

Proverbs 18:21 “The tongue has the power of life and death.”



Dine and Dish:
Ask your kids about the Unconditional Love Army Chant we marched to during our time together.
Create a fun chant together at home about your love for one another using specific things you love about each other.
Go through the “Work Book Pages” behind this page. They are taken directly out of “The Five Love Languages for Children” workbook.
Do an activity together:
Create a List of all the things you love about one another in your family and read it out loud to one another before bed time.
Talk about how words have either encouraged or discouraged you when you were growing up – ask your kids about times people have said nice things/not-so-nice things to them and how it made them feel.
Create a collage with one another using positive words about your family.
Buy fun postcards write notes to 3 different people telling them why you are glad they are in your life and either hand-deliver them or mail them.
Call someone together and sing “I just called to say I love you” and tell that person why you love them and don’t call for any other reason.
Keep a journal. Write down the things you are learning from your kids and the things you do together. Keep track of their reactions to your questions or to the fun things you do together. See if your relationship changes or stays the same.