Date: 04/13/08
Proverbs 18:13 “Spouting off before listening to the facts is both shameful and foolish.”
This week at Bridge Kids, we continued talking about sharing. We found that one of the best ways for someone to listen to us is to give our attention to listening to them. This creates an unspoken agreement that allows for someone to desire to hear from you after they have felt heard/
At the Bridge, We articulate our faith, innovations, and processes with individuals and other communities. We gratefully listen and learn from the stories of others. In the give and take it is our hope to become better followers of Jesus Christ. Our passion is to love people simply because they exist. Love God, Love Others as Ourselves.
Today we presented three levels of listening. The first level was the way that we have been learning all year with the talking stick. Parroting – This is listening to the other intently with the desire to repeat what they have said after they are complete. The second level we understood by the game “Gibberish”. 60% of what we understand from others is through body language. If you can articulate that someone is angry, happy, or other nuances of what they are communicating there is a greater feeling of being listened to. Finally the third level is to combine the two and to tell the person what they are saying in their own words.
There are many speaking courses that are out there but very rarely to you get a listening class. Practice these levels at home. And especially when things get heated. You will find that by active listening you will diffuse a majority of the bomb.
April– Bridge Core Values – Sharing by Listening
Dine and Dish:
Talk – Talk to your kids about what learned about listening today. Ask your kids what they thought about the three levels. See if you can practice them with your BridgeKid.
Do an activity together:
Copy Cat–Take turns saying something and then having your BridgeKid repeat it back. Try to throw him or her off. If you succeed then its your turn to be the copy cat.
Gibberish – Take turns communicating something to your BridgeKid without using real language. It is funny how you can make up gibberish and still communicate what you want to say.
Research – Go to your local library together and research other ways people communicate
Incorporate – Make an effort to show your BridgeKid that you care by listening to them
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[Dance]
Talking Stick
Snack
Game: Whisper something in one end of the line and hear what comes back
2 lines
say:
Wise boys and girls always listen for fresh insights.
Spouting off before listening to the facts is both shameful and foolish.
Chicken
April is the month of sharing.
What does sharing mean to you?
Can you share with someone if they plug their ears?
So one thing about sharing is you have to have someone listening to you.
What are ways that you can get people to listen?
One of the best ways to get someone to listen to you is to listen to them.
By you listening to them, it creates a small agreement that allows them to want to hear what you have to say.
How do you show someone know that you are listening to them?
eye contact, tracking with them, asking questions if you don't understand something.
I want to share with you three ways that you can show that you are listening to someone. One of them you already know.
the first way is the talking stick method. After the person is done talking you repeat what he just said.
* What did I say?
* This can even work when someone is yelling at you.
[Dance]
Game: Gibberish
this next game is going to show you how we can have a second level of listening. Someone's going to go outside and get something to say and then they will come in here and try to communicate it without saying english words.
I love lions
(over half of what we understand when someone is speaking is body language)
I'm scared of mooses
(So a second way we can listen is see how that person is acting, and say what we are noticing)
I'm hungry for grapes
I'm happy when I dance!
[Dance]
So lets review
first level of listening is to be a parrot. To say what that person has just said. No interruptions. Asking them Is that all?
Second level is to watch their actions. What are they doing? Are they angry? Are they Excited? Tell them what you are noticing.
The third level is to combine the two. But this time say it in your own words. So you are not just copying, you are saying it back the way you are understanding them.
End with
Activity
break up into pairs an I want one person to tell a story to the other, and I want their partner to draw a picture of it. Both Bridgekids will tell their story to the other first, then we will draw.
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